Let's look at some ways you can make "me" time a reality:
First, decide that you deserve some time to yourself each day. Stop feeling guilty for taking time out for you, and realize in the long run, it's a win-win for everyone. When you are tired, stressed out and pulled in too many directions, it is hard to give your best to all you must accomplish. Remember, self-time is not selfish—it's a necessary dimension of self-care!
Decide how best to spend "me" time. How each of us chooses to spend free time is as individualized as we all are. If you had an extra 15 minutes, a half hour, an afternoon or an entire day, what would you do to make yourself feel rejuvenated, relaxed and happy? Write a list and keep it handy when you begin scheduling time into your calendar.
Evaluate the things that are wasting your time each day. Do you check your emails constantly and end up spending more time on your computer than you planned? Do you answer personal calls in the middle of your workday? Run to the supermarket daily to pick up dinner rather than plan in advance and shop once? If this sounds like you, you must take the time to organize your responsibilities, and you will gain more free time than you can imagine.
Learn to say "no" to requests to do things that you don't really want to, don't value or don't bring you satisfaction and joy.
Ask for help with chores that don't necessarily have to be completed by you alone.
At the beginning of each week, take a few minutes to designate specific time slots for all that must be accomplished—including "me" time. Treat your personal time like you would any other appointment and make it non-negotiable.
Commit to a minimum of 15-20 minutes of "me" time every day. Do something (or nothing) that completely lets go of responsibilities and releases your mind, allowing you to be alone with your thoughts.
Create a daily ritual. This can be a bath, listening to music, taking a walk or meditating. Make it something you can look forward to. Years ago, when my children were small and life felt too hectic and overwhelming, I created a ritual for "me" time. I decided it was well worth it to get up 45 minutes before the rest of the family to enjoy my coffee and breakfast in solitude. To this day it's my time to read, daydream or just bask in the sounds of silence. Looking forward to this time, and a coffee pot on a timer, gets me out of bed with a smile on my face.
Stop wishing you had more time to yourself, and commit to carving it into your schedule. Rather than bemoan your lack of time, change your approach and create the time using the tips above. You will be amazed at how a little bit of time to yourself can make a huge difference in your health and happiness!
Richardson, Cheryl. 1999. Take Time for Your Life: A Personal Coach's 7-Step Program for Creating the Life You Want, NY.
We lead crazy, busy lives. And the one thing we never seem to have time for is ourselves. This problem seems even more pervasive as we work harder to meet the challenges of this new economy.
Creating more personal time tops the list of goals many people want to accomplish. With work time, partner or family time and social time all demanding our attention, we are constantly juggling our day-to-day responsibilities. Finding as little as 15-30 minutes a day of uninterrupted, relaxing "me" time is challenging at best.
But we all instinctively know that when we take time for ourselves to pursue our passions, do the things that we enjoy, relax or even do nothing at all, we end up happier, healthier and feeling better. "Me" time allows us to de-stress, unwind and rejuvenate. Taking time for yourself allows you to renew, heal, and create reserves of energy and peace.
When I ask my clients why they don't plan more "me" time in their schedules, three common themes arise: not enough time, feeling guilty, or it feels selfish. The more giving and caring a person you are, the more these feelings seem to emerge.
Remember that no matter what we do, there are only 24 hours in a day, so you can't create more time. But you can clear some time by re-evaluating priorities, perhaps saying "no" more often and practicing smart time management.
"Me" time is not something you should feel guilty about. It's nothing more than taking some time to put aside your everyday business and treating yourself to an activity that you enjoy. It gives you an opportunity to relax, refocus and recharge. And when you do that, you can come back to your responsibilities with greater focus, commitment and enjoyment.
It is very common to become so involved in giving to others that we fail to give to ourselves, and although this is more often a trait in women, there are plenty of men out there who feel this way too. Many are so caught up in earning a living to take care of their families, that breaking away from responsibilities to indulge in hobbies, reading or hanging out with the guys makes them feel selfish.
If everyone else around you is worthy of care and attention, then so are you. You not only deserve this time, but you need it for your own well-being. Lack of time for ourselves often leads to feeling frustrated, tired, overwhelmed and out of balance. Without this time for ourselves, we lose sight of what's important to us.
Occasionally I am asked, "Doesn't exercise count as 'me' time?" Well the answer is yes and no. If you approach exercise as another responsibility to cross off the list, and/or get more joy when you are done vs. enjoying the actual time spent working out, you are probably getting lots of health benefits, but not the same kind you get from "me" time. Unless you walk away from your routine feeling renewed, refreshed, relaxed and ready to take on the world once again, you may still need another activity that you do just for the pure joy of doing it. If, despite a regular exercise routine, you still feel overwhelmed and yearning for personal time, scheduling a few "me" time activities will do you a world of good!
As the summer is quickly fading and the nights are drawing in, it is time to take care of your skin as the season changes.
The varying weather, change of temperature, hot baths and air conditioning lead to all sorts of skin distress. Humidity levels in the air tend to fall in the autumn and winter seasons, and the dry air has a tendency to strip skin of moisture. The result? Irritated, dry skin that’s prone to sensitivity.
This transition between seasons can have a negative effect on delicate skin, so we need to take care of our biggest organ and protect it through this turbulent time!
Focus on Ingredients
Take a look at the products you’re putting on your skin – do they contain ingredients that will nourish and benefit, or harmful chemicals which could irritate or damage your skin? Look for calming and de-stressing ingredients to de-sensitive and hydrate.
Dehydration can often show in our complexion – puffy eyes and fine lines can the result of this. As the change in weather is taking moisture from your skin, ensure you are drinking enough water to keep it healthy from the inside out.
Get into the routine of moisturising your skin twice a day, in the morning and in the evening. Simply cleanse and tone, then hydrate your skin with your favourite Day Cream or Night Cream. Don’t forget to take care of your body too – treat your skin to a new Body Lotion to keep dryness and sensitivity at bay.
Have you ever had that moment when you’re driving and realise you’ve been on autopilot for the last 15 minutes – and you wonder how you made it in one piece? Or when your partner is telling you about their day and you completely zone out halfway through the story? It happens to the best of us. In a society where we’re constantly juggling a million different things (and surgically attached to our phones), it’s no wonder we’re all so distracted. While it’s human nature for our thoughts to wander, this usually means that we’re either stuck in the past or future. The problem with this is that it often results in us missing out on all the good things happening in the present! Luckily, there is a way to train your brain to stay in the ‘right now’ – it’s called mindfulness.
An Experience Every Man Deserves
A traditional Turkish shave gives you a perfectly clean-cut and smooth face, free from razor burns and cuts.
With the use of a sharp open blade called an ustura and luxurious shaving cream, our professional barber leaves your skin feeling soft and refreshed, this is then followed by a rich traditional moisturiser which is applied along with hot towels for steam to let your skin breathe, rest and rehydrate. Once you’re cleaned up, enjoy a relaxing head massage…. And finish off with a splash of traditional cologne.
The Shave of a Lifetime….
It really feels like summer is in the air and while we feel high on a big dose of vitamin D, for most of us this brings us to the big question…. Am I prepared to start baring it out?
So, if you are one of those few who have been preening and pampering all winter you'll have nothing to worry about, if on the other hand, smooth skin, hair-free legs and a sun-kissed shimmer were the last things on your mind during the cold winter months here are some basic guide lines you can follow for a smoother transaction into the summer season.
It’s January and it’s Mental Health Awareness Month. We, at Carisma Spa and Wellness, do not think it is a coincidence to start a new year raising awareness on how to keep our mind healthy.
The mind determines all.
Once we are consciously aware of it, befriend it and maintain it well - pruning out negative thoughts, keeping toxic people at arms’ length, and finding silent spaces where to tune into ourselves and connect our mind to our body and soul – we create a balance that shoots up our quality of life.
January feels like the last days of a long, fun-packed holiday. Although still on vacation, you're already thinking about what needs to be done when back home. It's still hot, there's no chance of rain in sight and yet, the summer fun is over. Satisfied with your golden tan, you bid one final 'adiós' to the beach and your bathing suit – and your skin can't be happier. All that exposure to the merciless summer sun left it parched. It's time to focus on helping it recover. Weaving algae and glasswort oil are just what you need to quench its thirst.
Don't you just love it when you come across something so amazing that you feel like you made a grand discovery? From a new method that makes your life so much easier, a shop that's got just the thing you thought was impossible to find, to a highly nutritious ingredient that's also tasty. Whatever it is, discoveries make life all the more exciting. At Carisma Spa, our most recent discovery is PHYTOMER , an exclusive range of skincare products and associated treatments for both men and women that are so effective, we just had to share them with our clients – and we're really excited about it.
The Hammam is a sacred space for those who have experienced the way it transports you into its own world of peace and serenity where time stands still and the body is king. It is a place no one wants to leave and which offers a much-needed refuge from everyday stress. The calming effects of a Hammam treatment go deeper than the skin, and on top of the detoxifying benefits to the body and cleansing of the soul, it makes you unwind and find that place where you can just stop and be.
Carisma Spa & Wellness International has been offering a superior service in 5-star hotels, holiday luxury resorts and thalasso centres along the Aegean and the Mediterranean coast of Turkey and Malta since 1990.